The Marriage App

Imagine installing an App that takes your relationship to a new level immediately. No more unfair labels, unresolved conflicts, hidden landmines, sudden explosions or driving over a cliff. Free, open source and downloadable from an open heart.

Successful marriages and intimate relationships are rare, but they are possible. They are not built directly, but are the result of something else: devotion and self-ownership. Powerful, beautiful, life-giving relationships don’t just happen on their own, they are the shine and radiance of the Light of devotion. Devotion to Life first, successful relationships second.

Relationships that lack devotion depend heavily on compatibility, shared interests and affection to work. The limitation here is in the fact that such external things change over time. Now what? How can one build a relationship on things which are constantly changing?

When you see what you actually are and become open to, and familiar with your fundamental nature (Essence), you see that you are more than capable of creating and maintaining a super healthy, prosperous and fruitful relationship. When devotion to God and self-ownership are in place, face-to-face intimacy and shoulder-to-shoulder bonding become possible.

What is the Marriage App?

The Marriage App is our birthright, our inheritance. It is another name for Grace freely given. It is software that fits perfectly within our highly sophisticated human hardware: the bodymindself.

As wisdom uncorked, the Marriage App enables power, passion and purpose; it says:

“Who I am is here and now. I am the presence of life, love and energy. I am free and spacious like sky. I am like the clear light of the sun that refracts into the colors of experience.”

The Marriage App works because it is based in reality, in the forces of Nature. It is not contrived, manufactured or theoretical. It is not science, religion or philosophy. Installing it encourages a shift in personal identity for each partner. In the absence of full understanding of Essence we use labels to describe ourselves and our beloved. The Marriage App gives us the opportunity to release limiting descriptions/ labels while recognizing our Essence: already whole and complete, effortlessly relaxed and open.

We are like the apple tree rooted in the earth that basks in the sun and produces fruit naturally because it is its nature to do so. As devotees we root in the truth of existence, bask in the living light of awareness, intelligence, and experience and produce a successful relationship because it is his and her nature to do so.

The Marriage App contains ‘Guard Rails’ that prevent even the fastest cars from crashing through them. You don’t have to be a genius or even acquire new skills to have a successful relationship. No training courses needed. Nothing needs to be added to you or removed for you to have a beautiful, truly happy relationship. Bad childhood? No problem. Lousy communication skills? Doesn’t matter. Confused, angry and resentful? Doesn’t matter either.

Electric circuits conduct energy when they follow the principles of electromagnetism. Intimate couples conduct energy when they follow the principles of Essence.

Principles of Essence in Relationship

• Only God exists.
• Self-ownership creates intimacy.
• Projection of self-pity and blame create conflict, damage and distance.
• Devotion to Essence creates life supportive thoughts, behaviors and communication aligned with love.
• Lack of devotion creates a vacuum that is filled by pleasure, distraction and the satisfaction of every kind of appetite.
• Devotion creates openings for deeply inspirational downloads to be received.
• Lack of devotion creates stress chemistry/fight or flight in opposition to relaxed chemistry/rest and digest.
• Rest/digest is feminine receptivity. Fight /flight is masculine initiative. Together they create effective balance, apart they create disaster.
• Guard Rails protect each partner equally and fairly without favoritism.

A truly happy relationship is more than camaraderie; it’s mutual devotion and recognition of Essence. Love is the recognition that we share the same Essence. When this is understood and felt deeply, power struggles and competition transform into collaboration and mutual support.

Operating a marriage without Guard Rails is like handling radioactive plutonium with bare hands. This is only a slightly exaggerated comparison. Masculine and Feminine energies are nuclear and galactic-scale powers. Handle with care and prayer. We see that we are God’s prayer, the tongues of God’s Flame, a wave in God’s Oceanic Love.

When this recognition of Essence is real, a powerful intimacy becomes possible. It is not will not be co-dependent. It will not be yet another victim/perpetrator collusion. It will not be your patterns and neurosis on center stage having a relationship with your partner’s patterns and neurosis. No, it will be an exquisite collaboration between equals, a profound sharing and caring for what deeply and truly matters.

Guard Rails: Complete and utter devotion to truth and love, no matter what. No projected self-pity, No projection of unowned content. No blame, no dramatization of rejection when my preferences are not met, no withdrawal, no assumption of jurisdiction over the other, no superiority or inferiority.

Devotional couples don’t look to each other for happiness and fulfillment. We do not use each other to distract ourselves from our suffering or as a hedge against the unknown. We overcome our personal suffering by recognizing its origin in our false assumptions, beliefs and labels that contaminate and obscure the free flow of Life energy. Suffering is the painful feedback we desperately need in order to re-align our hearts and souls to the Greatness of Life. We end it by being responsible for it.

“Do not seek for love. Seek for the ways in which you obstruct it” Rumi

Unity Outshines the Separate Self

When there is devotion, there is effortless self-transcendence. It is the collapse of the two (relationship) into the universal one. What is false in you shrivels up in the sun and falls away effortlessly in the same way that being attracted to beauty is effortless. Not only that, but the attraction also activates inspiration, energy and action that produces real results in the real world.

Here is the main point: Our belief as separate selves is what underlies conflict, division and often, failed marriages. Separate selves can only manufacture a separate God and a world external to ourselves. Separate-self identities make separate-self relationships that manufacture separate-self conflicts. Separate-self conflicts cannot be resolved at the same level at which they were created. Resolution, the return to unity, is borne of another realm, that of Essence.

Individual devotion to truth is key; it unmasks and blasts through the lies we tell ourselves so that the coherence of Essence shines through and restores unity. Devotion to truth is not some passive, mystical infatuation with blissful states. It is not a panacea or a bandaid. It is a wrecking ball and a bulldozer that destroys and removes the slums and ghettos we unwittingly build from our innocence, ignore-ance, and arrogance.

Individual devotion first. Relationship, (and everything else), second.

Bottom line:

Who we say we are determines how we interpret everything in our lives. Using labels for ourselves and our beloved can only produce more labels. Essence stands alone and produces more Essence. Since only God exists as Essence in us, only God relates. Since only God relates, only God creates. Not only does God creates through you, God creates AS you.

Given the fact of how at least half of all marriages in the U.S. end up in divorce, the devotional Marriage App not only serves to fulfill the love and caring we each want in our lives but also flows abundantly downstream to affect and nourish our families, our friends and our communities now and into the future.